cocoaforge

hi--i am using yahoo not AIM--i put it in my subject line a few posts back...

ok but i don't even know who can see me...these are people i met online and i don't really know them and i don't know if they removed me, or i forgot i had added them

but in general does this mean people who added me weeks ago and to whom i no longer chat can see my activity on line? is there a way to limit this knowledge so only the contacts on my list can see whether i am online?

is there a way to check who has me on their contact list?